If you are going to have sex for the first time, probably there must be a lot of things going on in your mind. You may be wondering if it will hurt or will your body change after sex? Keep in mind that sex is supposed to be pleasurable. And it is important that you and your partner are ready for it—physically and mentally. Read on to find the answers to doubts related to first-time sex.
Will be body change after I have sex?
Your body does not undergo any physical change after you have sex for the first time. During sexual intercourse, you feel breathe heavily and sweat which is why your skin will become flushed. In rare cases, in women, the vulva might become swollen due to friction whereas the penis can (if done vigorously) get sore for men. Other than this, there are no physical telltale signs that you have had sex. People will know you have had sex only when you tell them.
Does first-time sex hurt?
No! Having sex for the first time doesn’t necessarily have to hurt. Many women have this notion that first-time sex hurts but if you pay attention to your body, it won’t pain. There will be a slight discomfort since it is a new experience for the body. Pain during sex happens due to friction when your vagina is not well-lubricated. Then penetration can be painful since you are not wet. Therefore, engage in a lot of foreplay to arouse yourself and stimulate the vagina.
Will I bleed?
The hymen is a membrane in the vagina that can rupture during exercise, sports activity, dancing, or inserting tampons. When the hymen tears, you may expect period-like bleeding for a few hours. During sex, the hymen rupture happens in a few women. Many women have had their hymens ruptured even before they had sex.
First-time sex: How to make it more pleasurable
Here are some tips that can make your first experience enjoyable.
- Make sure you’re having sex with someone you trust. Doing the deed with the right person can help you feel safer and in control of the situation.
- Choose a comfortable place to have sex. An unfamiliar place will make it hard for you to focus and thus, you won’t be able to enjoy the experience.
- Foreplay can help reduce anxiety and nervousness. Foreplay includes kissing and touching the body that leads to arousal and desire for sex.
- Indulging in foreplay can lubricate your vagina which in turn can make sex pleasurable and not painful. If your vagina is not getting wet, you might consider using a lubricant.
- If you are not planning to have children, it is best that you use contraception. Talk to a doctor to find out which birth control method is best for you.
- The risk of getting sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) increases if you have sex without protection. Using condoms during sex can reduce this risk. HIV can be transmitted through fluids (from an infected person only) during unprotected sex.
- You don’t need to rush. Go slow, take your time. It is okay if one of you or both of you didn’t get an orgasm. It is quite normal to not get an orgasm during first-time sex. Sex without orgasm can be gratifying too.
If you are experiencing difficulty in having sex, the reasons might be physical or emotional. Also, excessive bleeding, severe abdominal pain after having sex are red flags and must not be ignored. It is best that you consult a doctor or a therapist who will help you get to the root cause of your problem and treat it.
First-time sex can be awkward. It isn’t always magical as depicted in the movies. Exploration and practice can make sex fun.